Transformational NLP Session: 90 Minutes (Zoom)

Who This is For

This 90-minute virtual session with Jon was designed to work with individuals who want to change key aspects of their life trajectory without fighting how they have been till this point. 

• Dissolve unwanted patterns of failure, heartbreak, stress, and self-sabotage.

• Trust and validate your decision-making.

• Discover the excellence of your being.

(Note: This is not therapy or counseling. Nor is it classical NLP.)

Nobody lives with the conscious intention to have a miserable experience in their careers, interpersonal relationships, family dynamics, sense of worth (& wealth), and creative expression. However, most human beings experience a significant gap between: 

1. How they would like their lives to be, and 

2. How life actually is in many contexts—

• Personal image and self-esteem

• Purpose and motivation

• Professional achievement

• Relationships

• Sense of overall wealth

These private sessions are designed for individuals to close the gap:

• Illuminate and revise the hidden (beyond conscious awareness) drivers behind decisions and behaviors that don’t seem to serve your life anymore.   This often includes decisions and beliefs that you created as early as your conception (sometimes even earlier).

• Learn a new set of mental and decision-making strategies that are more functional for who you are now— your goals, purpose, and set of values. This often involves expanding your current set of beliefs and worldviews such that new resources, support, and behaviors become automatically available to you.

Each session is USD$495.

Areas of Attention

Common things clients come to work on one or more of the following:

• Romantic relationships. Some struggle to find, connect, and relate to another one or ones. Others struggle to break the cycle of heart-breaking, dysfunctional relationships — they find themselves in relationship with essentially the same person but just a different face. Either way, they are ready to relieve themselves of this patterned emotional tax.

• Experience with money. Some find that no matter how hard they try, they find themselves falling flat on their face financially— choosing bad business ventures, toxic jobs, or always running into “bad luck.” Others find that no matter how much money they have, they are in constant fear and anxiety of losing it— unable to enjoy the fruits of their efforts.

• Purpose and fulfillment. Some come because they feel deeply uninspired by their status quo (career, friendship, and way of being) — they feel there must be more to life than what has been. This often occurs at major developmental windows in life (28-32 years, 38-42 years, 48-52 years etc.). They want to put their unique passions together in such a way that there is little distinction between “play” and the everyday necessities of being.

• Bewildering (and crippling) experiences of fear and self-doubt. Many capable people find themselves unable to adopt new behaviors (life, love, business, well-being etc.) even though: 1) They know exactly what needs to be done, and, 2) They know themselves to be more than capable. They want to understand how to dissolve the psychological barriers between intention and action.

• Overwhelmed by a sense of responsibility for others. Most people experience this in some shape or form. Many clients find themselves overly responsible for others in their lives (parents, family, colleagues, community etc.)— to the point they compromise their overall well-being and dreams in an attempt to help others be well. They know they must put their oxygen mask on first— but no matter how hard they try, they find themselves diminishing their well-being anyway.

• Take ownership for their lives but know they still have blindspots. These individuals know that their life’s experiences are their creation— they often don’t find themselves blaming other people, places, and situations for their experience. However, even then, they know they have blindspots. So, they appreciate respectful, artful support in illuminating them so they can continue to grow and learn in life.

• Love to learn about the triumph of their consciousness. These individuals are already learned and passionate about the nature of personal reality. They know that the information they attain from their five senses is limiting (though very glorious) and that the source of their time/space experience comes from a different context which requires a different form of attention.

Key Benefits

• Clarity on what’s most important to you and what you love. 

• Peace of mind about what is. 

• Less self-doubt and internal conflict.

• Confidence to move towards your goals with greater satisfaction and ease. 

• Appreciation for your many dimensions of life.

• Remembering the creative power they have over their experience.

Session Format

• Sessions are 90 minute facilitated conversations during which Jon will ask you specific questions, guide you through mental exercises— all within the comfort of your chair. 

• You simply need to have a video conference facility and microphone. 

• The journey of self discovery and personal fulfillment/achievement never ends— the client dictates the pace at which they open new chapters in life. Typically, sessions last a good month or so before clients return for follow ups for as long as they wish. And others find that one is more than enough for a lifetime.

• Each session is USD$495.

Working Premise: Ending the War Within

Question: How do you defeat yourself in an arm-wrestle?

When it comes to creating personal change, most people have the instinct to overcome their perceived limitations: block out negative thoughts and grind it out to learn new behaviors, for example. While this has an appropriate and helpful place in many contexts such as sports, competitive arenas, raising a family, and life & death situations— it is not a sustainable way to create lasting change in your life. Trying to win a war against yourself is futile— there will always be another conflict to be had. 

The working premise of these sessions: How can we reconcile the many aspects of our lives that seem to be in conflict with one another? 

Every behavior and experience you have is useful in some context— or you would not have learned to perform them so consistently and reliably. However, many behaviors and experiences have long outlived their use— especially within the context of who you are today and what you want for your future. The purpose of the session is to: 

• Reveal what these are and how they have been imperative to your life. Humans often celebrate positive achievement in life and use that as a symbol of human excellence. However, if we want to see the footprints of your excellence, we only need to properly observe your biggest pains, struggles, and limitations.

• Revise them to be in more harmony with who you are now and who you are becoming. This often allows change to unfold in your life without your remembering things being any different. There is no homework after these sessions other than to carry on.

Note: The frames used in sessions are simply useful frames— not immutable truths. Think of them as lenses— you are empowered to put them on and take them off as you see fit.  

How Does The Transformational NLP Session Work?

Through a 4-phase series of intentional questioning and deep reframing: 

1. Outcomes: Clarify your important outcome, aspiration and experience— how you will know specifically when you have what you wanted?  

2. Systemic Consequences: How the specific outcome with impact the important aspects of your life (people, places, activities, things). A 1 degree shift in water temperature facilitates an entirely set of lifeforms, for example.

3. Patterns of Unwanted Experience: The unconscious drivers behind the unwanted experiences you have been repeatedly having. These don’t repeat because you are failed, flawed, or underserving— far from it. These repeat because they possess great survival value and devotion— together we will unpack the brilliance behind these creations.

4. Revising & Rewriting: We revise the hidden assumptions, beliefs, and mental blocks such that you can move towards your outcome with greater ease and grace. How will your story play out in the future? How might it have played out differently had you known what you know now… but back then?

About Your Facilitator

Jon Low is a Transformational NLP practitioner, founder coach, trainer, and facilitator. His professional experience spans the disciplines of design & engineering, systems modeling & decision-making, and coaching for performance. 

His clients come from all walks of life including: CEOs, VC-backed founders, athletes, executives, creatives, and everyday human beings at the cusp of a significant transformation in life (career, relationships, purpose).   Jon is especially helpful when individuals are seeking conviction in their decision-making within specific constraints and dependencies. 

For over 20 years, Jon has been both a student and facilitator of professional growth via numerous modalities including; martial arts, interpersonal communication, mindfulness, systemic constellations, and performance consulting. 

Jon is also founder of Polaris Alpha, an executive advisory, delivering tactical support & founder coaching for early/early-growth stage startups. He has helped startup founders raise more than $500MM in VC funding from notable funds such as: Menlo, Sequoia, Goodwater, Tiger Global, Softbank, a16z, Lightspeed, Accel, and Founders Fund, to name a few.

In his spare time, he continues to practice mindful movement, surfing, and martial arts.